Why do the majority of feminists hate men (not all feminists)?

That abuse is not severe, but it is relentless, and much more easily escalates to actual hate that even the most recalcitrant misogyny.

Measures of unconscious bias consistently display the same thing.

Don’t blame feminists for not analyzing the downside of the male role, or for not having properly addressed it within themselves. They naturally have their own stakes in mind, not yours. But ignore them when they try to stop you from doing the same. Because this goes back centuries, millennia, before the first extensive patriarchies existed, to when we decided it was the male role to handle wars. And insisting upon ignoring it is getting worse as the world gets more polarized, less respectful, more arbitrary and less honest.

Ive been pretending to be okay and acting as normal as possible, but Im actually completely heartbroken after a recent breakup. Its painful and really affecting me, to the point where I cant concentrate at work, Ive lost my appetite, I cant sleep, and It feels as if my whole world has been turned upside down. I loved him so much. He said so many cruel things to me and it made me realize he must not have loved me the way I loved him, or he wouldnt have said such horrible things. How do I handle the heartbreak and why cant I accept that he didnt love me and just forget about him?

This is not just about women, much less just about feminists. This is “the downside of patriarchy” in feminist terms and “the legacy of being a protector” in conservative terms. Men have a longstanding gender role, and being the first targets for abuse is a part of that role. Abuse cultivates hatred. Women will insist otherwise, but they can only do so by ignoring history. The penalty for men abusing women has always been more severe than their punishment for abusing one another or for women perpetrating any kind of abuse, at least on average. Whatever mythology feminists may advance for things like the acceptance of domestic violence, those are just lies, or they exist individually, but not as a trend.

Look at our vocabulary of abuse. I can’t reasonably call a woman publicly by the name for her genitals. If I used the actual word here, I would probably be reported. But I can call someone a dick, a prick, etc. fairly lightly. The strongest terms of abuse have male gender added onto them just for good measure: someone who has penetrative sex with your mother is clearly male, we aren’t all making some obtuse reference to pegging; when we call someone a donkey, it is a male donkey by preference; we refer more lightly to the sons of dogs than to the dogs themselves; when we reference masturbation it is wanker or jerk(off), and that is pointedly male masturbation…. Even very mild insults are pointlessly male-oriented — someone who sucks, sucks something that women are thanked, not denigrated for sucking, so this is clearly about gay men… It is endless.

Because the majority of the entire society hates men. Men are motivated to judge other men harshly because they are motivated to be more competitive and disrespectful, which involves othering your enemy, and the legacy of war is that men judge anonymous groups of other men the way their leadership tells them to, generally with distrust. Women are motivated to judge other women more leniently, and to be suspicious of men, and are quadrupling down on the idea men are just more often horrible human beings. Some feminism opportunistically feeds that, but they surely didn’t create it. Once you have those leanings, you start devaluing men as human beings.

What's your take on Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? How has it affected you?